10 Tips For Communicating With Alzheimer’s Patients

When thinking about Alzheimer’s it is important to remember that the patient isn’t the only victim. Family and friends must share in the burden, which can be especially difficult if the former loved one no longer feels like family. The question becomes: how do you care for this stranger–this stranger who just so happens to look like your loved one? If your loved one has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s it’s important to be prepared for this emotionally. And it’s also a good idea to learn how you can still communicate with them throughout the course of the illness. Here are 10 tips that can make communicating with Alzheimer’s patients easier and more successful.

10 Tips for Alzheimer’s Communication

Many families will quickly realize that their loved one is no longer able to communicate as they once did. Maybe a mother and daughter always teased one another playfully, but now the mom doesn’t react the same way. Even worse, she might not realize what her daughter means, or she might even be offended by the teasing.

1 – Face them when speaking

It’s often difficult for Alzheimer’s patients to recognize when someone is speaking to them. To make this easier, make sure you face your loved one when addressing them. This will also improve their ability to understand you.

communicating with alzheimer's patient2 – Make eye contact

This tip is similar to the one above. If you’re not standing facing them while speaking, you also can’t make eye contact.

3 – Meet them on their level

If both you and they are standing that’s fine. But if they’re sitting on a chair it’s best if you kneel in front of them. This is especially important if they are in a wheelchair. Otherwise they will have to look up at you and they may feel you’re towering over them.

4 – Don’t talk too fast

Slow down when you talk to your loved one, and make sure to enunciate every word.

5 – Don’t make sudden or abrupt movements

Quick and unexpected movements may scare the person. Keep things slow, and if you have to move quickly make sure to stat you will do so beforehand.

6 – Shake their hand when you visit

People with dementia enjoy being touched– this can be very therapeutic and comforting for them. When you visit, put your hand out to shake their hand, and they may reach for yours. If they don’t, just let it go and move on.

7 – Laugh with them

Alzheimer’s disease isn’t fun– it’s serious and it kills. But, everyone can use a good laugh sometimes. Laughter is a powerful medicine. When you visit your loved one, tell them a funny story. Sometimes, they might tell you one too.

8 – Try visual cues and gestures

If you want them to use a particular item, point, touch, or hand it to them. To give you an example: if you want to eat some dinner, point to the plate and then your mouth, and perhaps hand them the fork too.

9 – Don’t cross your arms

Crossed arms is considered a sign of anger or discontent. This isn’t helpful when interacting with someone who had Alzheimer’s or dementia. Keep your arms uncrossed and use natural body language.

10 – Smile

Last, but not lease, smile a little. You will want to do this at any time (except if the conversation is more serious), but particularly when you’re telling the person something pleasant or humorous and when the person is telling you something of a like nature.

Using these tips can help you communicate with Alzheimer’s patients more easily. And perhaps if will make visits with your loved one a little more fun for everyone.


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